It is a common misconception that the child’s therapist or a social worker is the most effective interviewer for an alleged child victim of molestation and abuse. But in reality, what transpires is a series of information that’s tainted and biased.
The problem with the present societal norms is that when...
These signs are not an exact list, but rather a guideline that should alert any parent or guardian to the possibility of their child being molested. The list is from the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.
There are changes in behavior such as extreme mood swings and excessive crying
Bed wetting, nightmares and other sleep disturbances
Acting out sexual activity or inappropriate knowledge of sexual activity
Sudden aggressive or rebellious behavior
Regression to infantile behavior, clinging
Problems at school
Changes in toilet-training habits
Fear of certain places, people or activities
Poorly explained injuries like bruises and cuts
Pain, itching, bleeding, fluid or rawness in the private area
90% of child molesters KNOW their victims. Less than 10% of molesters are strangers.
What to do if you suspect your child is being molested:
Young children rarely lie about these things. Ask open ended questions, not leading questions. If something inappropriate is happening, you will hear about it.
Keep close control on who has one on one access with your child. Just because someone is a Sunday School teacher or coach, doesn’t mean they’re automatically safe. Don’t be afraid to do a background check on everyone who interacts with your child. Here’s a link for an easy background check.
If you have a teenager or preteen, you have to make it expressly clear that if something bad is happening to them, you will not blame them or be mad at them for any reason. Remember that molesters often use fear control on their victims.
Remember that statistically most molestation happens within the family. Don’t be ashamed to ask your child about this as well, but make your questions age appropriate.
If it turns out that a family member is the molester, there may be torn feelings about bringing that family member to justice. Remember that many child molesters are repeat and multiple offenders, meaning your child isn’t the only victim. It’s not just about getting justice, it’s about ensuring the safety of your child and other children.